What advice would you give to someone who is trying to break out of their shell?

Last night, I broke out a little... but I was under the influence of alcohol. I came out to some of the students here at the program (like 2-3) which I would probably never have the way I did. They're okay with it but that's not the question here. I've recently just come out this January and I'm trying to break out of my shell and just be myself... but I feel like I am not being myself. Like sometimes, I feel so fake... I just want to be happy with who I am and be myself around my friends and family sometimes... Any advice?What advice would you give to someone who is trying to break out of their shell?
When it comes to being shy:





You need to know that everybody (even the cool and popular) people have insecurities.... they just hide it very well. Those that appear cool seem to not care about approval and acceptance (they don't need it but they do appreciate it) Start by taking their lead. The term ';be yourself'; is so old, but it is so true. Find out who you are and be happy with that.... the rest will follow. The best way to find out who you really are is by starting to do things that you like to do, things that you would want to do. Take a chance and see where it takes you. The worse thing one can do in life is stand still out of fear.





When it comes to coming out: (assuming you imply that your gay)





There are many views on the subject, but my advice is this. Appreciate those that accept you and keep them as long as you can, and move from those that don't. Everybody need to realize (gay or straight) that it is always better to depart from bad influences, bad people and negative lifestyles and opinons. Be prepared to be dissapointed because of the many views out there, you will come across those haters and homophobes. Take heart though, life and the world that we live in is changing. It's the person and not their identiy that matters nowadays. We can know that as one person, our challenge is to change a person's hate into appreciation and acceptance through our actions and personaility. Chose to look to the positive and the world will take notice and be drawn to it. Sulk and find yourself lonely and no one to listen to.What advice would you give to someone who is trying to break out of their shell?
What are the consequences of being yourself? Loss of friends? Family? Job? Money?





Whatever you stand to lose will seem insignificant if you wait years to come out. Every minute of life that goes by that you aren't living honestly is a minute of life you've wasted that you can never get back. I wasted over 30 years. Will you?





(Charles - only slightly less impressive than your 20 years of being a total loser.)
Take you interests and your best qualities and put them out the for people to see. you like science? make comments about scientific stuff that relate to regular ';not to interested'; people. Why does beer foam, what happens if you drink it upside down. Computer gek? makes comments out loud , ';damn it I just caught a virus! Thats areal ear catcher. They will laugh and invite you in. Youre right, be yourself and have a few if it helps you feel more comfortabvle just dont over do it.
Be formidable, show qualities. People always accept those with qualities, it's a realisitc issue.





Have a song then.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B5xsiKBJG…
I'd say, fuc* it! Lets just forget about what people think and open up and act crazy! :D





I'm no help, sorry. haha
Maybe you're not a fag.
dance around naked. anything u do after that will seem insignificant. ^_^ lol. ily *huggles daoie*