I am going to get married next month... Can anybody give me advice on ways to keep the marriage working?

We are very much in love. I just need to know what steps to take to make our love and marriage last forever.I am going to get married next month... Can anybody give me advice on ways to keep the marriage working?
u may have some ups and downs in ur life after marraige wich is normal but it doesnt mean to cheat on her/him because of that (it seems that cheating is the fashion for these days)


u have to understand each other and be able to handle a biiiiiiiiiiiiiiig responsibilities








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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>I am going to get married next month... Can anybody give me advice on ways to keep the marriage working?
Both of you write a list of questions then spend an afternoon answering them. Things about money, the grocery shopping, chores, kids, pets, friends, family members, even the smallest thing ask them all. Then when you are married you will know exactly where you stand with each other and there will be less arguments. Also get a pre-nup and sort out the money, as money is the main cause of divorce. Ask him what he expects of you, will you stay home and cook, clean, or will you work.
I've been married twice...I've been divorced twice. Hindsight is 50/50. I now see what I did wrong in the past.





Listen to me when I tell you it is about being SELFLESS. It is about APPRECIATION for the other person. If you ever feel that you are giving more than you feel is fair to the relationship then don't hold it in...talk and be honest about your feelings. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. Never get too comfortable or feel you deserve something. Also, never bring up the past, let the past hurts and wrongs stay in the past. If you are not willing to let it go then you have not really forgiven that person, and you always forgive the person you love.





It is also important to keep things fresh and take time for yourselves...partners forget to do this when they have children and it leads to resentment. Always have a date night...even if it is just sitting under the stars, and talking. Don't let money problems stop you from enjoying one another. Love doesn't cost anything, some say that love will be work, but I believe that the reward from that extra effort makes it less like work because the pay off...the enjoyment of each other...is worth more than anything money could buy.





To sum it up....this is the perfect explanation of what Love is and how to make a marriage last....if you do these things and follow this then you will have success and happiness:





1 Corinthians 13:4-8





Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
Treat your husband with kindness. At 46, it's the characteristic I value most, and the one I married for.





I happen to agree with that misogynist. Don't deny your husband sex. It isn't a tool to make him do what you want (like marry or impregnate you). He is most vulnerable when he comes to you for sex. You should WANT to give it to him. Please don't use it to manipulate him. It will change everything about your marriage if you do.
Some of the best advice I got was from grandma, she said don't try to change him in any way, he is what he is, and don't nag him to do things, praise him when he does. Tell him thank you when he takes out the garbage, even 10 years from now. Thank him and tell him how you love his being considerate when he does call and tell you he's going to be late, or he's doing whatever. Accept him exactly as he is. Praise him in public. Don't whine to your friends or especially HIS family if you are mad at him. She said don't try and turn him into ';Mr. Right';, but always try to BE his ';MRS RIGHT';.


So far so good, 9 years and still together.


Grandma knows best.
people can give you advice but it has to be you and your better half to make the marriage work, as long as you two are on the same page together then things will be ok, try to communicate with each other that is a big issue in failed marriages. be honest to each other, love unconditionally. never CHEAT, do for each other, take care of one another. Congrads... good luck......
I have been married 27 yrs...always be open and honest. never crowd them..each of you should have your own life too...out with the girls/boys..never give up. if you really love each other, you can work anything out.......sometimes people give up to easily. marriage is hard work and a job.........
Don't forget that problems are necessary for love to exist..





But don't try to start any problems.





A real marriage consists of trust. Do not become weak and insecure about your clutch on your husband.





Marriage lasts if you can talk things out and come to an agreement.
Open communication is very important.
No sex before marriage, for starts.





Here is an interesting article:





http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
trust and communication. respect each other and each others feelings.
Trust and Commitment. It takes a lot of hard work but believe me it is all worth it,
Honesty,communication, and Hot Sex!!! this has worked for me I got married at 17 we are 36 and it's never been better.
Make sure you never deny your husband sex. That would be the beginning of the end. You are about to become his property, get ready to be a good wife and obey him.
Congrats!! I agree w/ Brittian... communication. Keep it going, keep it flowing. When that stops, your marriage and happiness will stop.