I have had a really close friend who i work with for over a year now we used to hang out loads talk loads and well you general best bud stuff , but he has recently been promoted and is now my manager and things have changed loads and im really lost as to how to feel about it. We dont hang out often he treats me really differently at work and well yeah things are just weird between us a tad awkward. I really dont know how to be around him and how to feel about this, any advice would be good as to how to deal with my situation. Thanks.He used to be my friend :( Advice please !!?
Kinda weird, but easily fixable. Obviously he doesn't want to take this job so lightly and probably doesn't want to be seen as such. Hopefully he isn't getting a big head because he got promoted. Just talk to him after work and hopefully that will clear things up. Or call him or something to see if he wants to hang out. If he says he is busy then make a lighthearted comment ';busy with work stuff?'; and see what he says. Something else to consider-if people see you two hanging out all the time they might assume that he would play favorites and pick you over other people, causing a stressful workplace and eventually a lot of rumors. So he might be trying to save you a little bit of hassle too. As long as he isn't rude to you, there isn't much to worry about. He probably is a little nervous too, considering that he just got a promotion and any support that you give would probably be really appreciated. Let him know that you are there for him. He also might not want to feel like he is rubbing it in your face, so just kinda let it go for a bit until the whole newness of the situation wears off...He used to be my friend :( Advice please !!?
I think under these circumstances it is fair to say, that he is to treat you differently in work due to the nature of his promotion.
However this does not mean he should treat you differently outside of work.
You may not want to hear this, but talk to him and confront him about how you think things have changed outside of work between you.
Freely say him about it .Talk to him about what U want to be in his life a friend,best friend or lover (if u r a femele). Mean It ';Life is like a vast ocean where things can overcome by Your Efforts Only';.Todays busy life is a modern one and it separates the relations but its the human inner conscience which forces him to overcome these forces.So,Try It ,You Will feel at your highest Satisfactory Range
You should first confront your friend and ask him why off late is he acting weird?I think that now that he is promoted he nolonger sees you as his friend.Because he thinks that if he keeps friendship with you,you might gain an upperhand and will take advantage of him by asking him to do some help in officework.Bye.
talk to him and clear things up
Do you like him??? clear ................and live stress less life..........
Best luck
You would talk only at your workplace or outside too?If you did talk to him outside then you can easily confront him while not at work and ask him for his change of behavior.Tell him that it hurts you to see that his attitude has changed towards you after change in position.Maybe he would reply saying that he should treat you equally with the other colleagues.Don't feel bad about that if he says so.Because that is the problem what everyone faces once they are in a little bit higher position and they have friends who are in a position lower than them.They too have pressures to conform to.They don't want to hear that because of their friendship they are being too lenient or something.All you need to do is talk it out to him.I am sure with the wonderful rapport that you have it won't be difficult to do so.
And if you only talk to him at your workplace find a suitable time when you know he would be alone and go talk it out to him.Talking it out will solve all your problems and clear any misunderstandings if any.
All the Best!!
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